Monthly Archives: August 2016

The 3 Stages of Failure in Life and Work (And How to Fix Them)

Looking back on the past eight years I’d be lying if I said that everything has been wonderful. There have been many stressful moments, most of them self-inflicted.

I got involved with a family business for the wrong reasons. Our family relocated…twice. I sat with indifference for several years at my day job just waiting for the right moment to be anointed as a leader. I fought with those around me – my spouse, my children, myself, my brother, my parents. I waited for others to make decisions then blamed them for my own lack of self-determination.

James Clear has identified three stages where people fail in life and work:

https://medium.com/the-mission/the-3-stages-of-failure-in-life-and-work-and-how-to-fix-them-5d69196e0b38#.i5xy28qag

The 3 Stages of Failure in Life and Work
The 3 Stages of Failure in Life and Work

I’m not ashamed to say I’ve fell down on all the points listed in the article. The idea that struck me most while reading this article was the example of Emerson.

Like many children, Emerson followed the path of his father to the same school and the same profession before opening his eyes and realizing it wasn’t what he wanted. Adopting someone else’s vision as your own — whether it be from family, friends, celebrities, your boss, or society as a whole — is unlikely to lead to your personal dream. Your identity and your habits need to be aligned.

My work in progress from this article is to determine my non-negotiable. I also stand to improve how I handle criticism (read: I don’t handle criticism well at all).

Which stage do you identify with most? Where are you at on the journey? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

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“I think I just tooted”

Last night I went through the normal bedtime routine with Emma. We read our princess story, sang a few songs, then snuggled and prayed.

As I got up I looked at her and said “I love you so much Emma, I am grateful for every moment with you and thank God for you every day.”

Emma smiled and responded: “I think I just tooted…”

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“The Land of the Lines”

I don’t impose limits on myself. If I find a better idea for a scene, I adapt the story. That way, the narration remains instinctive, which is especially important for a story like The Land of Lines.

-Victor Hussenot

One of the things I love about having children is the opportunity to see the world through their eyes. It keeps my sense of wonder fresh and new every day. Stuff that could easily be ignored by adults such as graphic novels or animated films are part of a parent’s daily rhythm.

Several months ago I was browsing through Zandbroz Variety (my favorite store in Fargo) and started flipping through a book. At first I found myself idly flipping through pages waiting for the words to start but soon realized there were no words. Only lines and pictures.

Intrigued I started over and began my journey in the land of the lines.

Click the picture for a great interview with the author – but beware the spoilers if you plan on reading the book.

Slowly but surely the story drew me in and I followed this journey of discovery, adventure, and more. I found myself feeling connected to these characters and feeling a sense of sadness when the story ended. How could I feel sad about a few lines after only a five minute read?

There is power and beauty in simplicity. If you haven’t read the book, stop by my office and take a quick peek (it only takes 5 minutes to read), then buy yourself a copy and pay it forward.

In the land of lines, anything is possible…

 

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“Song of the Sea” – A beautiful movie

A few nights ago we were looking for a good family movie to watch while we ate pizza.

We opened the Amazon movie app and “Song of the Sea” caught our eye. This is, without a doubt, one of the most beautiful movies I’ve ever seen. This film has a well-deserved 99% fresh rating from Rotten Tomatoes.

Critics Consensus:Song of the Sea boasts narrative depth commensurate with its visual beauty, adding up to an animated saga overflowing with family-friendly riches.

Each frame is gorgeous, the type of movie you could pause at any moment and marvel at the beautiful art.

In addition to the beautiful music and animated art, the story is compelling and rich. Themes of love, embracing emotion, and remembering our past are all woven into an enchanting story.

Do yourself a favor and watch this movie. One of the things I love most about having kids is the excuse to watch animated movies. Like children themselves, children’s stories often have wonderful meanings and beauty for adults if we take the time to watch and listen.

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